The Proverbs 31 Woman in the 21st Century

This woman is my role model. How can you read about her and not want to be like her? I imagine my mother-in-law sitting my husband telling him about the ideal woman and then going on to describe me. How cool would that be? My mom in law is a seriously great woman, very intelligent – she has a PhD in Pharmacy! Is she described me like this, I would hit the roof with joy 🙂 proverbs 31 woman

This Proverbs 31 woman as she is called sometimes seems too good to be true. She has set the bar so high for women sometimes it’s scary. You feel like if you were put next to her you’d always fall short. Never good enough. But hey, there is hope. Don’t give up yet. Am sure she wasn’t always so amazing, she learnt, she failed a couple of times but she keep working on it. And that is why they wrote about her in the greatest book of all time.

Let’s see what we can learn from King Lemuel’s (another name for Solomon) mum.

She is rare

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies

I agree with Solomon’s mum, a good woman is hard to find. In an era where women value money and recognition more than anything else, a wife of noble character is almost impossible to find. The 21st century has brought a lot women empowerment which is a good thing. But in the process of being on top of the corporate ladder, making serious money and fighting for equality, the beautiful art of being a wife and a mother has been lost. In these times, a wife of noble character (who still respects and submits to her man regardless of how much she makes or the title at her office door) is indeed hard to find. No wonder she is worth far more than rubies.

She is good to her husband

I know sometimes your man can drive you crazy and you feel like making his death look an accident. Ladies, that was said on a light note, don’t do that please 🙂 This woman does her husband no harm regardless of how bad he’s messed up. Now that is a hard lesson on forgiveness.

11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

She works hard

Majority of the chapter is spent on how hardworking this woman is. Here, read for yourself and see.

13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.

27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.

Now, I know we’re not in the era where we knit with wool and flax anymore. The point is she makes sure her family is well clothed –whether she shops at Gikomba or Mr. Price is immaterial. She trades with merchants read stock exchange and all kinds of business (nothing illegal), buys land and plants a vineyard i.e. makes solid investments. She works hard even if she has maidservants. She’s not known to be idle. Girls, is that you? Guys, is that your woman?

Cares for the needy/poor

When was the last time you helped someone in need? Not just throwing sh.5 in a bowl for a cripple on the streets. I mean ‘opening your arms’. That means helping with love.

20 She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.

She has strength and dignity
She walks with her shoulders high because she is strong. Tough things come her way but she remains strong. Ever her dressing exudes dignity.

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity; he can laugh at the days to come.

What comes out of her mouth?

Women are known to talk more than men, the problem with talking much is that you easily hurt people with your words. Trust me I know. In the process of talking, you say something you wish you can take back.

26 She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
This is one thing I’m working on. To speak with wisdom! And that involves talking only when I have something that can build and being silent when I need to be.

This causes her man to be respected

Because of her;

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

Whenever you treat your man well, with respect even his peers respect him. When he sits among others, he’s taken seriously. When his friends know how highly you think of him, they will have a new admiration for him.

She is praised

Given a chance, what will your man or your kids say about you? Even if you are single, what words can be used to describe you?

28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”

She knows what is important

It is good to be charming, smart and beautiful. But fearing God is way better. After all, that is where your strength comes from and it is the beginning of wisdom. This woman knows that a good relationship with God is far better than looking good.

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

These qualities require a lot of work. Like many women out there, I’m trying to be this kind of woman. It is not an easy task but it is extremely worthwhile. The next time you come across a good, honorable, respectful woman, make sure you;

31 Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.


7 thoughts on “The Proverbs 31 Woman in the 21st Century

  1. I think there’s more to the Proverbs 31 woman than people initially realize when just reading the passage. I’ve incidentally been reading a new book by Dr. Tony Evans and his daughter, Chrystal Evans Hurst called “Kingdom Woman” that has given me new insights. Right off the bat they talk about the Proverbs 31 woman being the hallmark of kingdom women, “But the Proverbs 31 woman is not the model of a perfect woman. Neither is a kingdom woman called to perfection. Women, you can be a Proverbs 31 woman and more – but that doesn’t mean you do it all at the same time.” They talk about life flowing through seasons and about getting help, not trying to do it
all. It’s really eye-opening. If you’re interested in Dr. Evan’s book, they have information and even free devotional downloads at I hope it blesses you as it has blessed me.

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